Take Care of Your Mental Health During the Holidays

The holiday season is not an exciting and joyful time for everyone. There are many people who experience family conflicts, grief, loneliness, feelings of isolation, or negative memories around this time of year. If this is you, know that you're not alone, and your feelings and experiences do not make you an outcast. 

If you're feeling negatively around this time of year, here are a few simple tips that can help keep your mental health in check. 

1. STRESS: Know your limits.

Whether you’re hosting dinners or attending them, be realistic about what you can handle. If you start to feel stressed or overwhelmed, don’t ignore it. Try prioritizing with a list, letting others share the responsibilities, or simply declining invitations if you feel your mental health deteriorating.

2. ISOLATION: Keep busy.

Being distant or estranged from family and friends can result in loneliness, especially during the holiday season. Keep yourself busy with things you enjoy. Pick up a winter hobby. Join a group—support or otherwise. Volunteer and help others in need during this time of year.

3. GRIEF: Acknowledge your feelings.

If you’ve lost a loved one, the holidays can be especially tough. Acknowledge that it won’t be the same. Realize that it’s normal to feel sadness and grief, and know that it’s okay to take time to cry or express your feelings; you can’t force yourself to be happy just because of the time of year.


Expenses can easily get out of control during this time of year. To help with your stress levels, set a budget early on and stick to it. Avoid buying gifts with a credit card. Consider hosting a “Secret Santa” this year with friends or family to keep your spending in check.

5. FAMILY CONFLICT: Be realistic.

If you’re concerned about conflict during a family gathering, the trick is to be realistic. Be prepared for some conflict. Accept the reality of who people are, and the reality that they likely won’t change their habits or opinions just because it’s the holidays. Keep conversations neutral, and pick your battles—if possible, save arguments for a later date.

If you think you need help managing your mental health this holiday season, please connect with our mental health therapists. Click here


Additional resources:

Holiday Wellness Tip Sheet

Holidays and Grief

Dealing with Grief and Loss During Holiday Season

Going Through the Holiday Season on Your Own

Alone for the Holidays